Who we are

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Tim Murray
Conscious Kink Practitioner
(All Pronouns Welcome)

Tim Murray is the author of A Kink in the Cure and a Conscious Kink Practitioner. At his core, he is a believer in making the world a better place. By day, he spends his time consulting with businesses on cultural and disruptive transformation initiatives, coaching leaders in pursuit of their goals, and mediating conflict in relationships. By night, he advances the evolution of society through supporting local non-profits and engaging with subversive social-change organizations. He carries a degree in Individualized Studies from Goddard College, where he focused on Behavioral Science with an emphasis on the use of BDSM as a tool for healing sexual shame and trauma.

Tim is a queer and polyamorous, switch, puppy, service top... among other things. He holds a Certificate in Conflict Mediation, a Black Belt in Lean Process Improvement, and carries an authentic copy of The One Ring (just in case).  He has served on the boards of the Seattle Center for Sex Positive Culture and the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.  He and his partner, Aicila Lewis, are the co-founders of Radical Intimacy, where they deliver presentations and workshops on topics such as: Balloon Animal Bondage, Self-care as a Secondary, Consensual Sensual Touch, D/s Dynamics for Beginners, Finding Your Edge, Laughter Belongs in the Dungeon, and many others.

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Ali Wyles
Technial & Media Wizard

Ali Wyles is the renaissance woman doing the majority of the off-stage KITC work. She is immensely proud to have played an instrumental role in moving A Kink in the Cure from a collection of essays to a compelling stage piece. She is a professional haikuist, an engineer, a sex activist, and a project manager.

She is a poly, kinky, pansexual, switchy Latina. She is a daughter, an aunt, a friend, and a lover. She is many things, and she is just like you: confused and saddened by a world which punishes so many of us for our very existence. Ali believes sharing our stories is a necessary step along the path to healing ourselves and our world. When we share our stories of pain, joy, and ecstasy we recognize ourselves in one another. She sees herself in almost every story she hears; when she doesn’t like what she sees, she changes it. She is lucky to love so many people including pretty men in skirts, gender-fluid beauties, and strong women who love minions. Ali holds degrees from Colorado College, the College-Conservatory of Music, and the Wentworth Institute of Technology. She lives in CO with her fiancé, two partners, two cats, and two dogs. Ali is a regular contributor on Medium, and you can read her work at medium.com/@ali.wyles.

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Aicila Wyles (Ah-ee-sila)

Aicila Wyles is the Director of Motivation for her clients and partners. She does work that inspires and motivates change for the better. She is also an Advocate for Dreamers and Underdogs, an Asker of Hard Questions, and a Community Builder. An unapologetic geek, she may be dressed as a Star Trek cos-playing Minion or a Portal test subject (with a fully-functional costume!). Wyles is an Apocaloptimist; she knows that it may all go horribly wrong, but assumes that even the zombie apocalypse will have a bright-side. Aicila has served on the board of directors for a variety of social justice and arts organizations in Colorado and Washington State.  She is a believer in equality at a core level and has spent most of her adult life working to it make it a reality for as many people as she can. The Woodhull Foundation, The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, Out Boulder, and the Center for Sex-Positive Culture, have all had the benefit of her driving force at different times. She is one half of the duo behind Radical Intimacy, a Colorado based groups that facilitates workshops and leads discussions on kink, sex, relationships, and intimacy. Wyles is blessed to have two fantastic children and an extensive polycule to support her in her various hijinx.